I remember a conversation with a mediator who told me, quietly and almost apologetically, that they felt unprepared to manage conversations where racism sat just beneath the surface. They were confident with commercial disputes, workplace clashes, and even heavy family breakdowns. But when an intake form hinted at racial tension, or when a participant made […]
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I recently came across a blog post from The High Conflict Institute titled Autism Spectrum Disorder and High Conflict Personalities: Working with Cultural Differences. It is presented as practical guidance for conflict professionals working with autistic parties. It is well-intentioned. It is also, in significant ways, harmful, and the harm is not incidental to the
Most mediators are taught how to reframe. Fewer are taught how to explain reframing, and even fewer are encouraged to be transparent about why they do it. Reframing is often described to students as “restating something more neutrally”, “removing toxicity”, or “putting it in a way the other party can hear”. That description is not
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A colleague recently asked me whether I was familiar with any research on the risks associated with mediating with a heavily pregnant woman. The woman in question was in conflict with her ex-partner, the father of her unborn child, and my colleague wanted to know whether there were particular considerations they should be thinking about.
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In my work on neurodiversity and conflict, there are some interesting intersections that come up frequently. There’s one phenomenon I want to make sure you understand, because it comes up constantly in conflict situations. It’s called rejection sensitivity, or sometimes rejection sensitive dysphoria. We all feel rejection Let’s start with what’s universal. We all have
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If you’re new to mediation, you’ve probably mastered the basics of facilitating dialogue between two parties. But what happens when a third person enters the room? Whether it’s three colleagues in a workplace dispute, a supervisor and two team members, or any other multi-party configuration, these situations require a different approach and careful strategic thinking.
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You trained as a mediator. You’ve learned about impartiality, confidentiality, and party self-determination. Now a colleague or manager asks if you can “facilitate a difficult conversation” between two people in their team. It sounds like mediation. It feels adjacent to mediation. But before you say yes, it’s worth understanding what you’re actually being asked to
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We are living in a moment where the centre of society feels like it’s cracking. Polarisation is no longer abstract, it’s showing up at dinner tables, in workplaces, and in parliament. Social media rewards outrage, making disputes louder and harder to de-escalate. People feel the legal system is inaccessible: too expensive, too slow, too confusing.
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I was chatting recently with a mediator about a mediation that was mid-way through. A first joint session had taken place, with another scheduled in the near future. However, in the meantime one of the parties had potentially breached confidentiality of the first session. It was unclear whether there was a technical breach or not,
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Robert Baruch Bush’s recent article in the Harvard Negotiation Law Review tackles something most mediators have noticed: we all agree that party self-determination is fundamental to mediation, yet we practice it very differently. The Gap Between Theory and Practice Bush identifies two distinct approaches: In facilitative mediation, self-determination matters, but it can be set aside
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